Like any physical activity, anal stretching can hurt if you push yourself too hard or use a toy that’s too large. It’s also possible to develop anal fissures or hemorrhoids.
But it’s easy to prevent these problems with proper anal care. Start small, slow and be careful, even if you think you can handle more.
When you’re playing with anal stretching toys and tools, it’s important to start small and work your way up. Unlike regular anal sex, you’re not used to having something inside your hole, so it’s best to take things slow and listen to your body. There’s likely to be a little discomfort and even pain at first, but this is normal. Eventually, your hole will get used to the sensation and you can increase the size of the toy you’re using.
It’s also important to use lube on your fingers and the stretching toy. You can find a variety of lubricants online, including silicone lube, which is great for anal play. You should also wash your hands and sanitize your toys before and after each use to prevent bacteria transfer and prolong the life of the toy.
Before you start stretching, you should always have a bowel movement so your anus is clean and ready to accept a larger toy. Be sure to wash your hands afterward as well and, if necessary, use a lubricant on any anal poop that may be present. This is especially important after using a dilator as these are often inserted into the anus for deep penetration and can transfer bacteria to your butthole if you’re not careful. This can lead to a painful anal stretch and even infection if not properly cleaned.
It’s very easy to push too hard when trying out anal for the first time. Many beginners will use anal lubricants and try to insert their toys much more deeply than their bodies are ready for. This is a surefire way to cause pain and, at worst, injury.
It takes time for your anus to stretch out, and that’s why you need to be patient with yourself. Don’t go too far in at once, and make sure to take your time each day. It’s also important to remember that your body is different from one day to the next, so what felt easy on Monday might be difficult on Thursday.
As you slowly work your way to anal, it’s a good idea to keep other kinky things close at hand to add extra pleasure to your sessions. You can watch porn, read erotica, or play with kinky restraints to get additional sensations.
It’s also a good idea to wear a butt plug when training for anal, as this will help to protect your skin. It’s also important to know that you might experience gas or an altered bowel movement after anal stretching, and this is completely normal. If you see blood in your stool, however, you should seek medical advice immediately. It could be a sign of anal fissure or hemorrhoids, and it’s very important to treat these problems promptly in order to avoid long-term damage.
Use a Butt Plug
If you’re new to anal play, a butt plug can make the whole experience a lot more comfortable. It’s also a great way to work up to other types of anal penetration, like gaping (you’ve seen it in porn, right?), which can feel oh-so-pleasurable.
Start by lubing up your smallest anal sized plug and gently insert it into your anus. Move it around a bit, in circular motions, to warm up your anus and get it used to the feeling of foreign object entering it. If your anus is not happy, don’t force it. It will only get better and more receptive with time.
Once you’re comfortable with the basic insertion of the plug, try pressing the very tip against your anus. Pause to reflect on how it feels and decide if you want to push in a little further. If you do, make sure to re-lube everything and proceed slowly.
It’s important to listen to your body, and if at any point something feels off—sharp sensations, pressure that’s too much, pinching, hyper-awareness of the entrance or pain—it’s best to stop. These are signs you’ve gone too far and might be in danger of injury. Besides, anal stretching isn’t meant to be painful for most people.
Keep It Clean
Men and women of all sexual orientations are eager to stretch the anal sphincter muscles for anal play and penetration. But just like overstretching a hamstring in yoga, it is possible to push your anal muscle elasticity with a cock or sex toy past its ability to recoil and snap back, which can lead to anal fissures and pain. Fortunately, responsible anal stretching can mitigate these risks with time and patience.
Ensure you have a clean anal before engaging in anal stretching by having a normal bowel movement and using a lot of lube. Make sure the lube you choose is toy-approved and not a desensitizing variety, which can interfere with your ability to feel pain as a warning sign that you have gone too far or are injuring yourself.
The biggest risk of anal training is a simple tear in the thin skin that lines the entrance to the ass. These micro tears allow bacteria to enter and cause infection. They are also incredibly difficult to treat once they occur, so it is important to practice good hygiene and be very careful with anal stretching.
The best thing you can do is to train often, but in small increments. Try to train 4-6 times a day, 5 days a week for 5-10 minutes each session. Aim to move up a size every week, so by the end of 1 to 2 weeks you are able to insert items of considerable length and diameter.