Most people consider masturbation to be a private act. However, if you and your partner are open to this sort of play, watching each other masturbate can be extremely hot.
If you’re unsure whether she’s into this, try dropping a few subtle hints. If she responds positively, then maybe you two can take this to the next level.
1. It’s sexy
Men have always been turned on by watching women masturbate, but it can be even more sexy when the two are together. This form of foreplay often leads to coital sex, and it can deepen the intimacy between couples.
It’s also a great way for men to learn new ways to touch and pleasure themselves and their partners. For example, a man who watches his partner finger herself might be inspired to try other ways of touching her, such as stroking, pulling and licking. This type of exploration is not only arousing for the woman, but it can help her feel more confident about her body and sexuality.
However, this can be a challenging subject for some couples to talk about. Many people have been raised to think of masturbation as a private activity that should be done alone. In addition, the idea of having a partner masturbate in front of you can be intimidating for some people. This reluctance to discuss masturbation can lead to feelings of insecurity and shame, which can be harmful to a relationship.
By talking about masturbation with your partner, you can ease some of these fears and create a more positive and safe environment in the bedroom. However, be sure to always do so in a consensual and healthy manner.
2. It’s educational
One of the things that is so interesting about masturbation is that it can teach you new ways to touch yourself. It can also show you what turns you on and what turns you off, which is incredibly helpful information for sex. For example, you may find that you enjoy being stroked or sucked on during masturbation. You can take that knowledge into sex with your partner and create some really hot, new sensations for each other!
It can also be educational for your partner to watch you masturbate. They can learn new ways of touching you and it can give them a sense of power because they feel like they are in control. It’s a great way to get your partner into a sexual response cycle of desire, excitement, orgasm, and resolution which can make sex (solo or with your partner) even more fun and intense.
Despite all of this, some women have reservations about their partners masturbating in front of them. This is often because they are afraid of being judged by their friends, family, or sex experts and can lead to some pretty uncomfortable conversations. Having open and honest conversations about sexual fantasies with your partner can help ease these concerns and allow you to explore this part of your relationship together in a safe and supportive environment.
3. It’s fun
Most of us, even those raised in sex-positive households, learn that masturbation is something we should keep private. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, it can create some discomfort in a relationship when it comes to talking about intimate sexual activities.
However, experts say that a healthy and fulfilling sexual experience for couples should include at least some solitary masturbation. This will give both partners time to experiment and figure out what turns them on and what doesn’t. This can help them find a more satisfying climax in partnered sex as well.
Men who masturbate alone can experiment with speed, strokes, positions, hands, and toys to see what brings them the most pleasure. For example, a man might experiment with slow and deep strokes in one session and faster and lighter in the next to see what is most orgasmic.
Men who enjoy foreplay can use their solitary masturbation sessions to work out stage fright before they go into the bedroom with their partner. They can practice stroking and rubbing their penises, moaning, licking, sucking, and pressing on their vulvae to build up to their peak orgasm. This can also be a great way to discover new ways to climax and to learn to love their own body. The key is to keep it fun and to avoid taking it too seriously.
4. It’s intimate
Intimate, sexy and powerful, masturbation is one of the most personal sexual activities a person can engage in. Masturbating in front of a partner can be a way for them to feel even closer to each other while experiencing pleasure at the same time. It can also be a great way for couples to try new things in the bedroom, such as role play or hands-off mutual masturbation.
Watching their partner masturbate can be very arousing for women, and can offer them a peek into the inner workings of their partner’s sexual desires. Knowing what turns her on and off, how she likes to masturbate, and what she orgasms from can be a great way for a partner to communicate their desires, whether they’re trying to explore their own masturbation fantasies or those of their partners.
Of course, not all women enjoy watching their partners masturbate, and some may find the experience quite a turn-off. That’s okay, and it’s important for couples to talk about their sexual preferences and boundaries. It’s also important for partners to be open about masturbation, and to try to keep it consensual, fun and playful at all times. Besides, as the classic cliche goes, “couples who play together, stay together.” Masturbating in front of your partner is a fun and intimate way to show her that you want to keep it that way.