Masturbating is a safe and natural way to get your rocks off without the risks of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases that come with partnered sex. It’s important that women prioritize masturbation, whether they’re single, dating or in a relationship.
Stimulating erogenous zones like the clitoris and vagina feel different to each woman, so experiment to find what feels good. Here are a few things that most women who love to masturbate have in common.
1. They’re comfortable with their bodies
Women who masturbate tend to be more comfortable with their bodies than those that don’t. Self-pleasure allows you to get to know your body better, so when it comes time to sex with a partner, it’s easier to understand what they like and don’t like about their own bodies. This makes sex with a partner more pleasurable for both parties.
In a study commissioned by sex toy company, Womanizer, it was found that women masturbate more frequently than men, with the women surveyed masturbating on average once a week or 49 times a year. This is despite 35% of the women surveyed saying they never masturbate.
The women surveyed gave a wide range of reasons why they masturbate, from wanting to explore their sexual pleasures to relieving tension from lack of sex. For women, the most common reason for not masturbating was fatigue, which is an understandable explanation as a tired body should be focused on rest and self-care. Other reasons cited were internalized shame, social stigma and a lack of education around female masturbation.
2. They’re adventurous
While men tend to be more vocal about masturbating, a recent study conducted by sex toy manufacturer TENGA revealed that women all over the world DO masturbate. And while some of the reasons why vary, many of them are similar: to soothe stress, to relieve anxiety, to boost libido, and as a way to make sex (with a partner or alone) even more satisfying.
Regardless of how a woman masturbates, it’s important for her to explore her pleasures and find what makes her tick. That’s why we turned to experts to get their best masturbation tips for women, from ways to play with her clitoris to tricks that will guarantee an orgasm every time.
This article is part of SELF’s Keep It Hot package, which celebrates love and lust throughout February. Check out the rest of the collection here for more ideas and inspiration. by Samantha Finn. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram. Featured image via Unsplash.
3. They’re confident
Especially for women in their twenties, masturbation is becoming less of a dirty little secret and more normalized. They’re embracing it as an opportunity to learn about their bodies and sexuality while also figuring out what kind of stimulation gives them orgasm. This allows them to communicate their pleasure preferences to a partner and also become more sexually confident in their own skin.
One of the best things about masturbation is that it releases feel good hormones, similar to those you get after a workout. It’s an instant mood booster and a great way to calm down. It’s also a way to take some time for yourself and have fun by yourself or with a partner.
Masturbation can be a way to discover your sensual desires, but it shouldn’t replace sex with a partner. In fact, masturbation can be a form of foreplay and lead to even more intense sex. But it’s important to remember that masturbation can be done in whatever position makes you happy — it’s a choose-your-own-adventure experience! You can try out different positions, use sex toys or just rub your body.
4. They’re sexually active
Masturbation is an important part of sexuality for everyone, whether they’re single or in a relationship. In fact, a study by TENGA found that more than half of women use clitoral stimulation (stimulate the clitoris with fingers or sex toys like a vibrator) to get orgasm.
It also helps them learn what turns them on so they can communicate those desires to a partner in a healthy way. Having a masturbation routine can even help women who struggle with a low or no libido because it allows them to feel sexual on their own terms.
Plus, it can be a great stress reliever. It releases hormones like oxytocin and nitric oxide that can help lower stress levels, heal adrenal fatigue, and even maintain a regular menstrual cycle. And as mentioned earlier, orgasms boost circulation, which can help relieve pain from PMS and other issues. Plus, it’s important to know that masturbation doesn’t replace sex with a partner. They can co-exist and make each other better. Masturbation is an important part of your sexuality and shouldn’t be treated as a taboo.
5. They’re happy
One of the most common reasons women have a low libido is fatigue. Masturbation is a way to feel good and give your body a physical, sensual outlet that can help regain that lost energy.
And as a bonus, masturbation can even help alleviate period cramps! Stimulating yourself to orgasm releases hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, all of which are feel-good neurotransmitters that can decrease cortisol levels and lessen the pain of uterine contractions.
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or just looking for a new way to feel good, masturbation is one of the safest and most fulfilling ways to explore your sexuality. And it can be a great way to discover what you want or don’t want in a partner, which will make partnered sex much more pleasurable for both parties. But most importantly, it’s a great way to show yourself some love! And what could be better than that?